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You Want Peace of Mind? Give It to Yourself!
They are waiting for everything to calm down so that they can get centered, relaxed, and ready for the next thing that comes along.
Guess what? It's not going to happen! Life has a habit of throwing us a new curve ball before we have had a chance to completely digest the last fast ball.
True inner peace is a mental state of equilibrium and balance that only comes from living in a state acceptance.
Peace of mind is the opposite of being "stressed out".
It is an absence of inner conflict.
Things outside may be chaotic and confused, but within there is a calm acceptance of things as they are.
Acceptance does not mean resignation.
When we accept things as they are, we stop wasting time and energy.
Our precious and limited energy can be effectively focused on changing the situation for the better if possible.
If it is not possible to change things for the better, we must accept things as they are a make the best of the situation.
Acceptance does not require that we like the situation; it only requires that we acknowledge the existence of the current situation as is presents itself at this moment.
"Some people confuse acceptance with apathy, but there's all the difference in the world.
Apathy fails to distinguish between what can and what cannot be helped; acceptance makes that distinction.
Apathy paralyzes the will-to-action; acceptance frees it by relieving it of impossible burdens.
" Arthur Gordon Barriers to Acceptance Some common attitudes that interfere with our ability to accept things as they are include:
- Wishing that things were different
- Unrealistic attitudes concerning conflict
- Wanting to have things "our way"
Denial is not a path to a solution or peace.
Solutions and peace emerge from creative approaches to difficult situations that can only come from clearly admitting that they exist and dealing with them as they exist right now.
Conflicts are an inevitable part of living because people have different wants and needs.
Unresolved conflict can be a festering sore that disrupts our inner peace and interferes with our ability to relate to others.
When we accept the existence of conflicts we can focus our attention on resolving them.
Most conflicts can be resolved in a way that is mutually beneficial, or at least minimizes disruption and inconvenience for the parties involved.
Our ego can be a major stumbling block to inner peace if we continually insist on having things "our way".
When we recognize and attempt to accommodate the needs of others we make room for differences of opinion and feelings.
Learning to be at peace even when we do not get our way requires us to get outside of ourselves and view things from a different perspective.
Give Peace to Yourself An attitude of acceptance can only come from within you.
If you truly desire peace of mind, give it to yourself by first accepting things as they are, and then moving beyond your ego to take creative and effective actions that can make them better.
"If there's no inner peace, people can't give it to you.
The husband can't give it to you.
Your children can't give it to you.
You have to give it to you.
" Linda Evans